Valuable Learnings from Our Kids

Whenever I talk to my kids, I can always see the great disparity that we, adults, have compared to them. Kids have a knack for dreaming, and their imaginations run wild due to their boundless and unhindered minds. They can turn a piece of paper into anything that they want, be it a sword, a boat, or a cape. They can dream outrageously, and still look forward to achieving it. Unlike most adults today that are already resigned with their lives – unable to give themselves a chance on reliving their wildest dreams.

Being a father of three boys ages seven, four and one, I have observed some of their mentalities that really stood out for me, and I believe, we can re-learn and re-apply as adults to make our lives more meaningful. Read all five, and be amazed.

 

Dreaming

 

Children in general are not bounded by the realities of the world. They dream endlessly while sleeping, but more so while they are wide awake. And it is so much fun to see kids try to live their fantasies and remind us what dreaming really is – limitless.

What were your dreams as a child? Did you dream about getting rich? Did you aspire to become a celebrity? The sad truth is that no matter how high our dreams are when we were young, those dreams are recalibrated within our financial capacity as we grow older. We can only dream as much as how high our income is, which for most of us, is just enough. Add this to the fact that we tend to prioritize providing for our families rather than fulfilling our passion.

Kids don’t just dream effortlessly; they also believe that it would really come true. Try it too on your goals.

 

Excitement Level

 

It is always automatic to see genuine excitement on kids. They brim with energy whenever and wherever it may be. You can observe this more on occasions like Christmas or their birthdays, where they expect to get some gifts. You can even see it while they are playing or in other simple things like when they get to eat their favorite dish or dessert.

What are you excited about today? Or, has it been a long while since you have felt that excited? Have you been too busy with your work that it already zapped any excitement in your life? Do you want to know how you can get it back?

The answer lies in knowing, or in this case, remembering what excites you. What are the things that motivate you, or inspire you? If you are into sales, maybe the reason of your low productivity is you not having enough excitement that your clients can feel. Your excitement should be through the roof, especially on your goals.

 

Persistence

 

Kids have an instinct on how to get something – they don’t give up. You can never discourage a child hell-bent on getting a toy in the mall, even if you say there’s a monster or a ghost in there. They will never take no for an answer. You should be too with your goals. If you fail, try again.

The problem with people quitting on their goals is that they raised the white flag an inch before the moment that they should have succeeded. Be relentless in eyeing and working on your goals, despite all the discouragements.

 

Trust

 

Kids trust people earnestly. They actually have no filter from being a baby to around seven years old. That’s why parents often say that can be stolen and brought anywhere because of this.

As an adult, being like a kid who trusts anyone easily is good too. You will have lesser stress in your life. You will not be paranoid about people double-crossing you. You will not be a lonely island that shuns people, even with good intentions, away.

 

Having fun (in what we do)

 

Kids, in whatever they do, are always happy and enjoying. Even in situations that they are being reprimanded, they find a way to make it to a fun spectacle.

If you want to venture into business, but you are currently occupied with your day job, start by being happy with what you are currently doing first. It is like training your mind and body to enjoy even the unpleasant and monotonous things. Until such time that you are genuinely happy, and can consider your work as not work as all because you’re having fun.

These things impacted me a lot, and to my amazement putting the first letters of the list above, will result to a word – DEPTH. When you think of kids, you might think about their innocence and shallowness, not anything connected with depth and profundity. But, having observed these things first hand, I have come to realize that if we are able to apply them, it can really alter our lives, no matter how trivial-sounding these might have been.

If you could travel back in time, what would you say to your eight-year-old-self? If you’re eight-year-old self traveled through time and asked you today about your dreams, what would you answer? Try to observe kids and see for yourself. In life, in dreaming, and in accomplishing goals, it is not always the experienced, or learned, that can shed light to a better world. Like this one, who would have thought that these simple things that kids do, can provide a wide scope of learning that when applied can drastically change our lives for the better?

All we need to do is just channel that kid in us. How can that be so hard, right?

Stop ???? , Look ???? and Listen ????????

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

We have always been a breed that underestimates the power of discipline. You can see it in the streets, where some continue to cross disregarding the stoplights and other traffic rules.  You can also observe them in other forms when people work for their goals in life – some being serious about it, but the majority if not all, continue to delay and take for granted the chances given to them every single day. Suffice to say, for every one of us to reach the level of success that we dreamt of, a new perspective on things is necessary. Without it, the consequence is a lot of pitstops, detours or U-turns coming our way – a significant delay in our plans.

It has always been about the why’s and not the how’s. If people start on themselves and focus on their self-development, then this will serve as a rallying point towards their targets. As they say, if you want to change the world, focus first on yourself, then your family, then your region, and finally country will just follow. The energy of a focused and passionate individual is contagious and radiating. It will be like a wave that will sweep other people to change on their own, eventually reaching the community, the region, the country and then the world.

But how do you motivate and inspire yourself to continue and live a life focused on improvement and progress? Let me share to you some of the things that I stopped doing, things that I start to see and observe, and things that I start to listen to, thereby helping me to achieve my goals and live the life of my dreams today.

STOP

 

  1. Stop Procrastinating

 

The world doesn’t stop when you don’t feel like doing something that is important. Actually, it gains speed, up until the moment that you really need to do it and then you realized that the time is not enough for you to finish. The problem with procrastinating is that we create a pile of to-dos that we thought we could do in a jiffy, but not. That’s why I see to it that I change this behavior if I want to be successful. I do the things that can be done whenever I can. I rally myself against laziness. Whenever a task is hard, I ask for help or find other ways to do it. Lastly, I always think of a reason to push me even more.

Discard the fear of failure because it feeds your laziness. And we all know that laziness is the main reason why a lot of us are having a difficult time succeeding. Do it now.

2. Stop Giving Excuses

 

We tend to be creative in giving excuses in a lot of things, including why we are not still successful or why we have not yet achieved our goals. It seems to be an innate Filipino talent. However, we have to be accountable to our lives, and this accountability includes owing up to you and to your mistakes. The old adage “If there’s a will, there’s a way” is a good starting point. If you are habitually late, be earlier than your earliest time. If you are slow, then be faster than your fastest. You see, the successful people of today are just small fries before. They just continue to work on themselves and put the blame on them for everything.

Be a person that harbors no excuses in order to be successful.

3. Stop Overthinking and Analyzing

 

A man chops a tree in succession, while the other contemplates on cutting his tree for the first time. After an hour, the man that chops in succession has finished, while the other one continues to think and makes no progress.

If you want to do something and you want to have results, do it fast. Thinking about it a lot, analyzing everything that may happen and delaying to take action, will delay your progress towards a shot on success.  Just do it.

This was all me before. I was so apprehensive to start because of the potential embarrassment. I was a person that was full of excuses, and too lazy to act. But I stopped being like that. I changed into the person that diligently works on himself so that I can have a longer time in the future to do the things that I wanted the most.

LOOK

 

  1. Look for Opportunities for you to Grow

 

The world is filled with endless possibilities. You just need to grab them decisively. Be aggressive in creating your networks. Invest in trainings that will enhance the skills that you need. Join groups and organizations that resonate with your belief. Pursue growth either in your business venture or your corporate career. Find mentors and coaches that can help you improve day by day.

What I realized is that, growth is a necessity for success.

2. Look for your Deep Why

 

It is hard to be successful, but it is harder if you don’t know why you want to be one. When you were a student, why do you want to have good grades? Do you know why you work so hard despite the traffic and severe weather? Why will you still cling to your business even if the profits are not looking good, and a lot of rejections are coming your way?

You see, your why is like the foundation of a building. The deeper it is, the more stable the building would be. Life is a torrent of blessings and challenges. Unfortunately, some challenges sway us to give up on things we want to pursue. Your whys are reminders that keep you level-headed in dealing with situations that can bring you down.

LISTEN

 

  1. Listen to those who have made it

 

I want to be successful, that is why I listen to those who are already successful. The problem with some of us is that we often ask and follow advices from wrong individuals. If I want to become a great manager, I ask an advice from a manager that I look up to. If I want to become a successful entrepreneur, I ask an advice from a successful business owner that I admire. You would not want to follow the advice of a dentist regarding the optimal design of your house, right?

2. Listen to Audiobooks and positive Aspirations

 

An apple a day keeps the doctor away. This is the same as a positive and learning experience a day can keep the feeling of giving up away. Whether we know it or not, positive things and emotions greatly affect our chances of success. It amplifies what we are going through. However, this is true for negative things and emotions as well. So, choose wisely.

Our minds are powerful processors of information. And in this age of digital revolution, a single click can take you to a lot of knowledge and know-how, take advantage of it and learn new things. For something that is free, this is definitely worth it.

3. Listen to trainers, mentors, and motivators.

 

The more we listen, the more we learn. And the higher the quality of the source, the more beneficial the learning will become. So, I did not hesitate to listen to trainers, mentors and motivational speakers. They provide guidelines that we can utilize to become successful. It doesn’t matter if they are younger than me or if I have a higher standing than them in terms of educational background or position. At the end of the day, the goal is to become successful.

In Conclusion

Stopping the things that weigh us down and delay our path to success is hard. But, it is doable. Looking for things that we need, people that will show us the way, can be frightening and out of our comfort zones. And yet, it is still doable. Listening to people that can help and guide us along our journey can be taxing, too. Yet again, this is doable. We become unstoppable if we put our hearts and minds in what we want to do. You just have to believe in yourself, in others, in God, on opportunities that will come, the system that you operate on, and the culture that you have created. 

Take it from me. I am now living the life of my dreams, because I Stopped, Looked and Listened, in my journey towards success.

Driving Towards your Goals

The path towards success is not direct, nor is it singular. Most of the time, we tend to believe that there is only one way to achieve our goals. However, a study of the lives of successful people of different fields reveals otherwise. Although the formula might always be the same, the process will always be different for everyone making the whole journey worth it and memorable for each and every one.

So, how can we really achieve our goals? What does it take to make a dream a reality? How do we transform our lives into the life that we dream about? Let me give you my thoughts on this and insight on what helped me in achieving my personal goals.

1. Vehicle

 

In any journey, the type of vehicle used greatly affects the outcome, especially the speed of travel towards your destination. If you’re going from your house to a nearby store, walking is fine. If you are going to a city that is kilometers away, then you might need a car. If you will use a sports car, then the travel time would be much faster compared to using an ordinary car. You can even board a plane or a ship, if it’s applicable.

In your life journey, the vehicle pertains to the opportunities that you take to achieve your goals. Whether it is a business or a professional career, the right vehicle will pretty much affect your success or failure. I personally chose business as my vehicle as I believe that it is the fastest way for me to maximize myself and get the dreams that I have for me and my family. Your vehicle of choice may be different from what I chose. But always bear in mind that the right opportunity will always bring you closer to your endeavors.

In whichever target that you have, always ask yourself if you have the right vehicle for it. Without the right opportunity, your journey towards your goals would always feel slow, incomplete, and tiresome.

2. Fuel

 

After choosing the right vehicle, you should also consider an equally important element for your travel — fuel. How would you expect your vehicle to run if it doesn’t have a source of energy? In life, the fuel signifies your drive, your passion, your reason – the intricate details that moved you to decide on getting those goals you have set. Like any other vehicle, when the fuel runs out, the journey will stop.

A continuous supply of fuel is like your motivation to continue. It is an internal mechanism that brings out your inspiration, egging you to push through amidst the challenges and hardships in your path to success. For me, my fuel is my family and the future that I am building for them. You might have another personal fuel: acceptance from others, recognition of your skills, or freedom to do what you have always wanted. But I believe that each of us aim to live the way we wanted to live our lives, with purpose and love. This is a fuel that drives each of us.

3. Driver

 

The vehicle might be there, the fuel might be up to the brim, but if there is no driver, the journey cannot and will not start. It is like this: You want to change your life. You are so motivated to do anything for that. An opportunity presented itself to you. You know that it will be beneficial to your goal. But then you hesitated and make a pass, telling yourself that you are not yet ready. This, while still hoping and wanting to change your life.

Dilly dallying will not bring you to your goal. Remember that you are the one that holds the steering wheel of your life. As long as the vehicle is not moving, your timeline to hit your dreams is also stalling. As the saying goes, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. You have to step on that gas pedal towards your dreams because nobody else will step on it for you.

4. Knowledge

 

All elements — the vehicle, the fuel, the driver — are ready. But then you realize that you don’t know how to drive. So, what will you do? You study. You ask people how to do it. You invest on a driving program. You practice. You fail. You try again. And repeat until driving is like breathing. No matter how flashy your vehicle is, how outstanding your fuel is, or how ready you are to steer, if you don’t have the necessary driving know-how, then everything is just for naught. Learning brings about progress. Progress eventually leads to success.

In a race, a Camry with a driver that knows how to drive will always defeat a Ferrari with a driver that does not know how. Lack of knowledge and skills might be a roadblock to your dreams, but as long as you are determined to learn and improve, you can overcome this.

The Right Mix

Success is not just one magic answer. Ultimately, it is the right combination of factors that we all need to be aware of. The four factors that I have mentioned have been true to my journey, but there might still be other factors that can contribute to your success or failure. A sports car is definitely faster than an ordinary car. The fuel can either be gasoline or diesel, but using the wrong kind of fuel on a car will drastically affect its performance, if not cause serious damage. In driving, you don’t start at the fifth gear immediately. Instead, you start at the lowest, gradually shifting to higher gears as you gain momentum.

A person who is willing to learn has a higher chance of succeeding than others, because he is willing to invest on himself to improve and change. Always remember that you will be a trailblazer in your journey no matter what. So, give yourself a chance to be on that adventure, putting your hopes and dreams on the line, and channeling your efforts and focus to a brighter and well-deserved tomorrow.

Happy driving towards your success!

The Power of Teamwork

“No man is an island” is a cliché that still holds true today. Kung gusto mong maging successful, ‘di na uso ang “alone-ranger” at ‘di na magwo-work ang pagiging “soloista”. Sa panahon ngayon, para makuha mo ang gusto mo, what you need is a devoted, passionate and solid team — a team that will work and persevere for a common goal, to achieve the success of all.

Pero paano nga ba ang dynamics ng isang team at paano mo maha-harness ang power nito to your advantage? Ano nga ba ang mga advantages of building a strong team? Let me share with you some of my realizations that I gained from being part of and leading a team.

1. Teamwork makes the dream work.

 

If you want your dreams to become a reality, you need to work hard and form a team that shares the vision you have. Parang sa kotse lang yan. Kung gusto mo makarating sa destination mo, you need to have the whole car to work, all parts harmoniously working together. May gulong, may makina, may gas, may steering wheel, may kambyo. At syempre, andun ka rin to drive and navigate your way towards the target. Sabi nga, sa isang team, together everyone achieves more. This is true because each and every one contributes and puts in the efforts needed to realize the end goal. Yung weakness ng isa, is a strength of another. May sharing and accountability. May tulungan. And one of the biggest benefits of all is that when a team grows, the potential to succeed also grows.

2. Efficiency is higher with a solid team.

 

If nakakita ka na ng dragonboat competition, you will observe na di lang isa ang sumasagwan sa isang bangka. Marami sila para mas mabilis makuha yung results na gusto nila – which is ang manalo. This is also true when you are trying to hit your goals. If you are a one-man team, your success rate of achieving your goals is smaller, say 30%. But if you join a team that shares the same goals that you are eyeing, the success rate can shoot up to say 60%. And finally, kung yung team na nabuo mo is highly skilled, trained, disciplined, focused and growth-driven, the chances can be as high as 90%. Being in a team increases your efficiency, because in a team, all the strengths of the members are utilized accordingly, overpowering the weaknesses, that you will surely tackle kapag mag-isa ka.

3. Accountability is shared among team members.

 

A team works by teaming up and clashing on with challenges head on. Tulong-tulong, sama-sama at sabay-sabay. A team is a like a web na kung saan interconnected ang bawat isa, na aware kayo sa goals at dreams ng mga teammates mo. No one is left behind, every thread in the web is an indispensable part towards success. Instant na may kukulit sa’yo kapag medyo lumalayo ka na sa goals mo, and in turn, you are also given the responsibility to pull your teammates within the path when they seem to forget or veer away. Walang iwanan, hanggang sa magtagumpay.

4. Morale and motivation can be given in all angles.

 

Minsan ‘di mo rin mapipigilan ang sarili mo na madala sa mga challenges at problema. But when you are part of a team, they can offer you a helping hand. A simple kamustahan will surely encourage you and bolster your dwindling morale. Kasi sa team, may pakialam ang isa sa bawat isa. Ang saya nun, kasi dun mo makikita yung support system mo to pull yourself together and work again towards your goals.

5. Wide range of ideas/solutions that can be gathered.

 

Ang brainstorming sa isang team ay parang pagpapalipad ng saranggola. Each idea or solution offered by each team member are like threads na pwedeng pagdugtung-dugtungin para mas tumaas ang lipad ng saranggola. And the best part is, everyone benefits from it and nagkakaron ng hatakan pataas. Parang treasure chest ang isang team when it comes to finding solutions and ideas.

6. Outcomes are higher, greater, and grander.

 

Think of the Pyramids of Giza. Hindi yun binuo ng isang tao lang. Sobrang dami ang gumawa nito. Same as with a team and your own pyramid of Giza. When you are aiming for a bigger and higher goal, being a part of a team, and harnessing its benefits, is the best way to go.

7. Relationships are formed and bond each member together.

 

When the vision and mission are clear, the target is common to all, and the team is bonded by their common cause and pinagsamahan, the team is unstoppable. You will be unstoppable. And before you know it, ang lapit lapit mo na makuha yung inaasam mo.

8. Keeps the load light and well-distributed.

 

You can’t handle eveything alone. Imagine, nag-organize ka ng event, ikaw ang sa registration, ikaw din yung sa design, ikaw din sa marketing, ikaw din sa food, ikaw lahat – for sure, stressed na stressed ka and at the end of the day, the event might not be that successful as you expected it to be. But with a team, the event would be smooth, the manpower is fully maximized, and the timing and resources are utilized efficiently.
The team is there para tulungan ka at para mapadali ang mga bagay-bagay na kailangan mong gawin.

There you have it! If you have been paying close attention to my 8 realizations, mapapansin mo na yung starting letters nila, pag pinagsasasama, will form the word TEAMWORK. Ganun talaga. Sa dulo mo makikita yung bigger picture. Bakit? Kasi wala naman ang resulta sa simula. Laging nasa huli.

Kaya be patient, work very hard, keep growing yourself, and continuously improve on what you know. Sabi nga nila, kung hindi mo alam, hindi mo talaga alam. Kaya alamin mo. Kapag wala ka sa level ng success na gusto mo, okay lang yan. It just means that you are not doing the things that successful people are doing. So start learning and doing them as well. Alright? Alright!

11 TIPS TO NAIL YOUR JOB INTERVIEW

It’s always a daunting task to ace an interview, especially if it is your first time, or you have come unprepared. More and more, the market for people to join a company or to be picked for a position is getting tighter and tighter as competition rages on. So, how do you really nail a job interview?

As I am both a business owner and employer, I have been in both sides of the coin where the applicant’s performance during the interview is concerned. There are times when the candidate seem to be perfect for the job based on paper but unable to show it in the interview. With this, here are my 11 tips that I can say will move you ahead of the pack, and increase your chances of getting that job you are aiming for.

 

1. Be completely prepared. It doesn’t hurt to know more about the company you want to be associated with or the position you are applying for.

 

2. Breathe. The interview is not a torture chamber of sorts. Nerves will get in the way for sure, but just be calm and relax.

 

3. Be confident in answering the questions. Confidence radiates, I assure you that.

 

4. Be clear, concise and coherent with your answers. So as to get the message across.

 

5. Avoid boasting too much about your qualifications. The recruiter already knows that. Focus on the value you can add to the company if they hire you.

 

6. Look ahead. Employers do not want to hire applicants that with a short term mindset only.

 

7. Be on time. Hey, you woudn’t want to set an impression of tardiness, would you?

 

8. Dress appropriately. It doesn’t need to be branded or expensive clothing. It is more on how you carry yourself.

 

9. Show your strong points and upsell yourself accordingly. Do this by being proactive and not just giving up the fight.

 

10. Stand out. With the number of unknown competitors you have for the position, creatively think of ways to not blend but be highlighted in the pack.

 

11. Begin with an end in mind. Even before the interview starts, the goal is to ace the interview. So you go there, and nail it. Focus on that.

There you have it. I hope these tips can help you land your dream job. Have fun in your job hunting!

Decision Making: A Daily Chore

We make decisions everyday. Whether biglaan, matagalan, wala lang or pinag-isipan, we choose among the viable choices presented to us. It can range from a simple question of “Saan tayo kakain?”, or “Mag-uber ba tayo or taxi?” to a life-changing thought of “Mag-resign na ba ako para mag-focus sa business?”, “Change career na lang kaya ako?”, or “Sa’n ba ako mag-iinvest? Stock market ba or business?”. Pero paano nga ba magdesisyon nang tama? How can we ensure that the decisions we make, the choices we pick, would impact our lives positively?

Decisions we make, whether we like it or not, will affect our lives for the better or for the worse. S’yempre, gusto natin for the best. That is why, it is imperative that we learn more about decision making. Himayin natin. Anu-ano ba ang mga variables na kailangang i-take into consideration before making a decision? What are the factors? Ano ba ang mga dapat isipin? Bakit ito at hindi yung isang option?

The Anatomy of Decision Making

 

Anatomy generally means a study of the structure or internal workings of something. Kung sa biology, ang anatomy ay about sa mga organs sa loob ng katawan and how they function in synergy with other parts of the body, ang anatomy sa decision making is more of a detailed analysis ng process paano tayo gumagawa ng decisions. How do successful people make decisions? How do they analyze things? What are the things that they consider bago sila magdecide?

According to Gayle Abbott, the president of Strategic Alignment Partners (a human resources consulting firm), there is a four-point strategy to deploy whenever you must act. They are:

(1) Identify the problem.

(2) Analyze the possible solutions.

(3) Evaluate the possibilites that are likely to bring you closer to your goal.

(4) Make the decision.

The process is simple pero mahirap at times. I have been in business for years now, and my decisions have weight lalong lalo na pagdating sa pupuntahan ng organization that I handle. It is not about me anymore; the whole group’s life is on the line kapag nag-decide ako about something. Not an easy feat, indeed. Now, do you want to know how I think and make decisions? Do you want to know how a top income earner in the Philippines do it? 

Read on.

My Thinking and Decision-Making SOP

Throughout the years, I can say that I am where I am right now because of both the good and bad decisions I made in the past. Yung list below is my go-to checklist every time I need to make a decision. Ito yung 11 things na accumulation of my experiences and failures along the way.

On weighing the pros and cons of something, how do I decide if I am going to do this or not?

1) Will it benefit others?

1. Will it benefit others?

I am on a business of giving value. Hindi na ito about sa akin lang. When you are chasing for success, it is more about you. But if you are aiming for significance, it is more about the lives you have helped and touched. On a whole different level ang feeling if people become successful because of you. Kung magbe-benefit ang iba, I will decide in favor of it.

2) Do not analyze too much kundi mapa-paralyze ka.

2. Do not analyze too much. Kundi mapa-paralyze ka.

Ang decision ay napapanis din. Oo, kung mabilis ka lang nag-decide about something, di ‘yun talaga thinking and decision-making. Pero kung sobra mo namang pinag-isipan to the point of non-progress, overthinking na yun at wala ka nang nagawa. Iwasan ang maparalyze sa kakaisip, think about the pros and cons accordingly. Huwag maging Juan Tamad na naghihintay bumagsak yung bayabas sa bibig nya. Take charge, and grab it.

3) Do forecasting. Look 3-10 steps ahead.

3. Do forecasting. Look 3-10 steps ahead.

Always do estimates. Look ahead, mas mabuti nga kung the whole year at hindi bukas o sa susunod na buwan lang. Hindi lahat ng bagay nadadaan sa YOLO. Yes, you only live once. But your loved ones also do, di ba? Take ownership because this is all on you. Bahala na si Batman? Di ka ise-save ni Batman kapag nagkamali ka sa pinili mo.

4) Set aside emotions.

4. Set aside emotions.

Avoid making decisions when you are too happy or too sad. Most of the time, mali yung decisions on those states of being too emotional. ‘Pag hindi level ang mind sa time ng pag-decide, mas malaki ang chance na mapalayo ka sa path towards your goals.

5) Don’t be afraid that your decision will fail. Trust yourself, then you will see life differently. Be bold and courageous.

5. Don’t be afraid that your decisions will fail. Trust yourself, then you will see life differently. Be Bold & Courageous.

Nakakatakot mag-decide, that’s why karamihan dine-delay nila ang pagpili. Pero it only makes matters worse, kasi you are not making progress. Always trust yourself. Yes, possible na your decision will fail. But not making a decision will not make it a success as well. You are created by God for something bigger. Decide and be bold enough to conquer your fear and deal with the consequences. When there is hardship, there is progress. And when there is progress, there will be success.

6) Look for other options. You need to have ten to have the right one.

6. Look for other options. You need to have 10 to have the right one.

Your perspective is not the only perspective. Hanap ka ng ibang angle, ng ibang options sa bagay na need mo pag-decide-an. Huwag ka magtanong para marinig lang ang gusto mo marinig. Ask, listen and have an open mind. When you see all the possibilities and all the angles, mas malaki ang chance that your decision will be a success.

7) Ask for advice from those who made it.

7. Ask for advice from those who made it.

Oo, huwag kang mag-decide nang agad-agad, pero wag ka rin atat. Have a mentor, teacher, adviser or coach that you can talk to, syempre yung relevant naman sa gusto mo mangyari. Ask them how did they make it. Sabi nga, matalino yung tao na natuto sa mistakes nya. Pero mas matalino yung natuto sa mistakes ng iba. Alamin ang point of view nila.

8) Ask yourself: Is my decision in line with my core values?

8. Ask yourself: Is my decision in line with my core values?

Lahat tayo, merong non-negotiables. They serve as a guide before making a decision. Start by listing them up and align them with the options you have. At least alam mo, kapag nag-decide ka na, you didn’t settle for less.

9) Check the facts and figures.

9. Check the facts and the figures.

Numbers don’t lie, that’s a fact. Kaya do due diligence and research. It can greatly improve your decision making if you know the facts and figures. Alamin mo yung iba’t ibang scenarios and start from there.

10) Look for things that cannot be quantified or seen on the charts.

10. Look for the things that cannot be quantified or seen on the charts.

If you are into basketball, alam mo na ang points made, field goal percentage, rebounds, assists, blocks, turnovers, fouls, at iba pang stats ng isang player ay quantifiable. Pero yung hustle, defense, transition, energy at iba pa ay wala sa charts. Pero equally, yung mga bagay na yun can affect the game. Sa buhay, marami ding ganyan, mga factors na di mo makikita sa trends or sa mga numbers. Take them into account as well, para ma-cover mo lahat ng factors.

11) Pray.

11. Pray

I am not promoting any religion, but if you believe in something greater and higher than yourself, ask guidance. You are not alone and of course, there is a higher power than all of us. Meditate and develop yourself. Mararamdaman mo na lang, na ready ka na and you have decided already sa bagay na bumabagabag sa ‘yo.

In A Nutshell

Decision making is not a straightforward process, pero kailangan ng grit, persistence, courage at conviction sa atin. Let us start with ourselves, and learn about how to decide properly, responsibly and truthfully. Palawakin natin ang ating mindset at tulungan ang ating bansa to grow by growing ourselves first. There is too much for everyone. Need lang nating malaman kung ano talaga ang gusto natin, decide on it, and apply the 11 guiding principles I shared.

At the end of the day, the decision you will make is always a choice between making progress and clinging to comfort. It’s good to be safe, but the dreamer in you deserves the best that this life can offer.

Kaya huwag mo nang i-delay ang pagpili na yan. Chart your course, one responsible decision at a time.

Now if you want to become successful? Learn their habits. Click Link: 11 Habits of Successful People.

11 Habits of Successful People

I have yet to meet someone who doesn’t want to be successful. However, more often than not, mas marami ang gusto lang, at walang conviction to push through and do the things that need to be done para magtagumpay. Being in my craft for 8 years now, marami na akong nakilala na mga successful na tao, mapa-corporate man, sa business, sa multimedia o kaya sa craft nila. I am always curious and asking, ano ba ang mga common na ginagawa nila? Paano sila naging ganito ka-successful? Ano’ng mga sikreto nila? And I found them.

Let me share with you these 11 habits that I have learned from them, na malaking bagay sa success na I am experiencing right now. Ready ka na? Game!

1. Successful people have a plan.  They create programs and steps.

Sabi nga nila, ang success ay di bara-bara. You can’t expect to have something out of nothing. Nagsisimula ang lahat sa plano. Whatever you want to achieve, list them down. Alamin mo ‘yung mga things to do mo to achieve them. And lastly, set a timeframe or deadline. A lot of people go through life with difficulties, because a lot of them do not know what they want. Kaya gawan mo ng plano. It’s worth the shot. Mapapansin mo na lang, ang lapit mo na sa gusto mong ma-achieve.

1. Successful people cannot sleep because they want to work. They don’t waste time.

Time is a valuable commodity. Dati, time is gold daw. Ngayon, time is diamond na. ‘Yung success mo, malaking chunk n’un nakadepende sa mga bagay na ginagawa mo towards your goal. This habit will either drive you to wake up early or to sleep late, kung saan mas gumagana yung mind mo. You have to realize that there are things that you do that do not add up towards your goal. Same lang ito sa mga ‘di mo ginagawa, na dapat palang gawin. Ultimately, be aware how you consume your time.

1. Successful people don’t care about the negatives. They only focus on the goal.

Let’s face it, we cannot please everyone. And it’s a trap to even think about it. Kung gusto mongmaging successful, simply focus on your goal. Parang surgeon habang nasa operating room, laser focused sa procedure para walang mishap na mangyari. Parang yung kabayo sa race, sa harap lang ang tingin, sa finish line. Anyone will always have a negative thing to say about you and what you do. Pero, handle it with courage, alalahanin mo ‘yung goal mo, and simply think of the satisfying feeling pag na-hit mo na ‘yung gusto mong mangyari.

1. Successful people leverage their strengths and improve their weaknesses. They grow. They master their craft.

Mas uso sa atin na maghanap ng mali, kaysa maghanap ng tama. This must change. Successful people focus on what they are good at, their strengths. Tapos, they give time to improve on their weaknesses. Ang goal ay maging best version ka ng sarili mo. And this can only be attained by continuous improvement. Mag-train ka, learn something new, share your strengths, and take note of what you are not good at. Huwag mong hayaan na maging regretful ang buhay mo dahil sa mga bagay na tingin mo ay ‘di na magbabago. Change is inevitable. And for success to come to you, change (for the better) is a requirement.

1. Successful people like to meet with successful people. They are students of life. They look for mentors.

No man is an island. ‘Yung mga successful people, may mga magnet at compass sila to lead them to other successful people. Look for them. Kung meron kang gustong ma-achieve, find that mentor whohas already done it. Pero i-check mo rin. Mirror your core values to them. Check their results as well if those are the results that you want. Always be ready for lessons. Minsan, may life lessons sila na masasabi that will impact your life a lot. Huwag mo rin tigasan ang ulo mo. Be a sponge and make the most of the advice given to you. Sabi nga, marami kang matutunan sa mga mistakes mo. Pero mas marami  kapag yung lessons nakuha mo sa mistakes ng iba. Nakaiwas ka pa.

1. Successful people know that they need to have a good team or a circle of friends they can call family. They lead a team.

Successful people are all leaders. Kung sa politics man, corporate organization, or team, sila yung mga makikita mo na nagli-lead. That is why, it is imperative to learn about leadership if you want to be successful. Start to be an influencer. Simulan mo sa friends mo that you share a goal with. Or sa family members mo. Or sa mga kasama mo sa work or organization. Be the heart and brain of the team. Leverage and delegate. Ito yung mga skills na kakailanganin mo para magtagumpay sa kahit anong larangang gusto mo.

1. Successful people know how to listen and to humble down.

Ang successful na tao, hindi arogante. Kaya kahit wala ka pa dun sa estado na yon, always put your feet on the ground. Makinig ka. Ang mga tao na marunong makinig ay mga success-in-the-making. Bakit? Because they know how to connect and they learn more while listening than talking. Always go back to your core values. Sabi nga ni Francis Kong, money is the acid test of character. Money does not make you in any way superior to other people. Kaya humble lang tayo dapat. Mas nakaka-attract pa yun ng marami pang blessings for you.

1. Successful people know how to close –  close a deal; close a door; close a problem; closure.

Believe it or not, in whatever you do, you are selling, and closing a deal. Bakit? Ano kamo ang binebenta mo? Idea. Kung nagyaya ka man ng movie na panonoorin, or ng restaurant na kakainan, or kung nagpayo ka man about sa isang decision na gagawin, nagbebenta ka na. Successful peopleare effective closers. And it is very important to learn this skill and eventually, make it a habit.

1. Successful people have discipline to continue even if the majority had already quit.

Be that person who finishes the race or marathon. Ang road to success, hindi smooth. Hindi rin yun pantay. At mas lalong hindi straight. Maraming mga bagay ang pwedeng mangyari along the way. Nandyan yung mga challenges that can really test your spirit, your mettle, and your conviction. Lalo na ‘pag narealize mo slowly, konti na lang kayo chasing that goal you all wanted. Until dumating sa time na ikaw na lang. But, be better than that, and have the discipline to persevere and push through even if the majority have given up. Remember, the road to success you picked is for the success you are chasing. Sa ‘yo yun. Kung nag-give-up na sila sa success na gusto nila, sila yun. Iba ka. Push lang.

1. Successful people strive to be the best in the role they need to play.

You are not always the star of the show. One thing na nakita ko, yung mga successful na tao, alam nila yung mga kailangan nilang gawin. Lalo na yung mga roles they need to fill. Be it to lead, to organize, to support, to delegate, to teach, or to stand by, yung mga matatagumpay na tao, they dotheir best in the roles they are assigned to. Walang kiyeme. Walang hesitation. Trabaho lang.

1. Successful people have the passion that most people don’t understand. They live or die for what they have to do.

Passion separates the successful and the not successful. It is one thing to continue doing something, and another to persevere on doing something even against all odds. Yung mga nagtagumpay, they outlast a multitude of trials along the way. Kaya normal lang na di ka maintindihan ng mga tao sa paligid mo sa simula. You know better that anyone else kung ano ang tinatrabaho mo, para saan, para kanino, at kung ano ang pupuntahan. But do it anyway. Mahirap magsisi sa huli, na karamihan ng tao ganun ang nangyayari. Use that fervor, your passion, to get you to where you wanted.

Mahirap maging successful, lalo na kung di mo alam ang mga dapat gawin sa simula pa lang. But I am positive that everyone of us has a chance and can be a success with the proper guidance, purpose and vision. You might be wondering, bakit kaya lahat number 1 yung mga habits ng successful people? Simple lang. There is no such thing as a one-way ticket to success. Yung mga habits na ito, they go hand and hand, and complement each other. If you want to be successful, you have to do them and apply them nang sabay-sabay. Lahat sila ay essential toward success.

Try mo. Apply mo. I am positive that if you adopt these habits in your life, they will definitely change you for the better, and help you towards the realization of the dreams you envisioned.

If you want to learn more??! Click Link: Spare Time vs Making Time